December 9, 2009


Rodliz’s Nest



Who among you guys remember the "You Changed My Life" movie line? Well, If you have watched that movie, am sure you'll not forget when John Lloyd said, " I never get jealous"...."I have never been jealous"..."Ngaun Lang" . Now remove "Ngaun Lang" and that will best described me. In our 7 years relationship i cannot remember and i am not even sure if i ever get jealous. I don't know... i think i am just too confident that hubby will not flirt to other girls. But of course for the sake of "kunwari nagseselos din ako", sometimes i would tell him to avoid teasing our flatmates (girl) or avoid from looking at those beautiful ladies whenever we go out.

But for him................i don't remeber a day that he didn't get jealous or think of any negative things about me. There was a time that my roommate told him "Yan kasi nag asa asawa ka ng maganda tapos ngaun magseselos ka" And even my mom told me that my hubby is so insecure. Actually, i never expected that he would be like that now. He was never been......until we get married.

Sometimes i don't really understand how he became so mean to ask on why i am late, what am i doing at work, am i just chatting with some friends or talking with a guy on the phone, am i entertaining some male visitors or flirting with my bosses....am i dating with some other guy when he's on a night duty, who am i meeting at the church (if i go alone), why am i not taking his call, or why is my mobile off...am i with someone or what... Even at home he would ask me why i enjoy talking and exchanging some jokes with our male flatmates...

Before whenever he get's jealous or whatever he said, it would turn me to burst out and express my anger right away...meaning i cannot handle whenever he said something not pleasing to my ear even if he said that he was just joking. In that case we will end up fighting and it will lead me to say some unpleasant words to him which will trigger his anger also. And then it will be worst....if he didn't stop i tend to be violent and i would kick, slap and punch him.


But now i came to realize that i need to understand him sometimes or just ignore his provoking jokes to avoid an argument.

8 comments:

Mom of Four said...

Sheng, never talaga na nagselos ka? bakit? abnormal ka siguro, baka alien ka?? ehehhe! well, siguro nga eh may mga unusual na taong gaya mo. Or baka sobra lang ang tiwala mo ke hubby na hindi siya titingin sa iba, since you know how much he loves you, di ba? Kahit alam kong loves ako ni Rodney, nagseselos pa rin ako eh..

Siguro sa kaso nyong mag asawa, need na isa lang ang super obsessive kasi kaapg pareho kau, baka magtagaan na kau, hehehe. But I am so glad na nag lie low ka na sa pag tadyak at pagjombag ke hubby mo, otherwise, magmumukhang punching bag yan. Lahat naman ng bagay napag uusapan ng maayos di ba? Mahirap talaga maging maganda..ako nga, hirap na hirap eh...Hahahaha! joke lang.

sheng said...

@mom liz:ewan ko ba mommy liz cguro tama ka na sobra lang tlga tiwala ko sa knya...mangyayari lang yta nag magseselos ako pag naconfirm ko na nakikipagflirt siya sa ibang girl...hehe

ay naku tama ka jan...pano kasi dumating sa point na nasapak niya ako dahil sa kasasampal at kakakalmot ko sa knya kya natakot ako bka pag sumobra ako kung ano na gawin nia skin..hehe

Manang Kim said...

Hi sheng you sure di ka talaga nag-seselos kahit konti....baka nga alien ka hehe sabi ni mommy Liz hehehe! Kidding aside you are very confident lang talaga and you know yourself well. Pero si hubby mo super seloso din pala buti di ka mainis sa kanyang mga questions. At maganda ka din kasi kaya ganun -wink-

Couple's Corner~Jealousy

eds said...

pambihira.. hindi kahit minsan??? hmm.. naku sa akin pati nga pusa pinagseselosan ko hehehe.. pano mas madalas nia pa lambutsingin ang pusa kesa sa akin.. aba kung pwede lang magpakapusa eh nagpakapusa na ako joke lang.. pero kakabilib ka nman. kung ang lahat ng wifey eh gaya mo naku ha, magiging baligtad ang mundo. ang nagiging bungangero eh si lalake sa sobrang pagseselos hehehe

basahin mo nman ang aking kwento here>> http://mydigihome.info/?p=295

Clarissa said...

Oh my!!Sabihin mo yan sa hubby ko!!Dyosmio!!Hinde yata nag exist sa kanya ang word na jealousy eh lol!Gusto ko rin ng feeling ng minsan eh may pinagseselosan--pero mild lang ha!!^_^

sheng said...

@manang kim: hehehe correct ka jan...iba na tlga pag beauty beauty ka (feeling)...

actually sinabi ko yan sa hubby ko na kala mo nman ang ganda ganda ng asawa mo para magselos ka ng ganyan...:)

@eds: well cguro may pagkakataon din pero it's more on the feeling na ung parang naseset aside ka lalo na pag pumupunta un sa mga kapatid niya dito halos nakalimutan niya akong tawagan or sabihan na mauna ng kumain kasi matatagalan pa siya...tipong mga ganun lang..

but then pag may nalaman siguro ako na talagang nakipagflirt siya sa ibang girl naku ibang usapan na yan bka magaya ako kay Manang Kim hehehe

@Clarissa: naku sis dpat tlga mild lang dahil pag sumobra pa doon naku....ibang usapan na un...hehehe

acmumcee said...

yan ang BEAUTY!!! haha!!! my ex was just like your hubibi, ate sheng.. masaya pero nakakasakal.. kahit mag shorts at sleeveless bawal kase baka daw tumingin ibang guys.. kahit sa mga classmates namin noon, bawal ako makipag biruan.. at ganun din ako.. bayolente ako noon.. but with hubby now, I can never remember anything that lead to physically hurting.. siguro that's one reason why I fell for my dear hubby kase he knows how to trust me.. feeling ko yun minsan yung kulang eh, yung trust.. though syempre masarap ang feeling na maganda tayo dba at takot silang mawala tayo.. yun nalang isipin mo ate sheng.. super love ka lang ni kuya kaya ganun sya ka protective sayo..

Genejosh said...

talaga you can slap, kick and punch your hubby?..he..he...you're right just ignore provoking jokes or create good jokes for him para mas masaya...he..he..posible din palang di magjealous...both of my hubby and me aren't seloso but we've experienced "selosan" portion in our relationship and love the kiss and make up episode..he..he...

Mine's here:http://www.hyzyd.info/2009/12/couples-corner-feeling-called-jealousy.html

BTW sis could you help me win sa Artscow photo contest? Here’s the details: http://www.genejostory.com/2009/12/help-me-win-at-artscows-photo-contest.html

Thanks talaga.

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