October 6, 2010

Being away from my family as I grew up from teenager to a young lady for about 10 years made me a strong and independent woman. Someone who can decide on my own from anything that concerns about me.

So then when Pangit and I got married I found it really difficult to adjust. I’ve always wanted to be the boss and even if he doesn’t agree on what I wanted I would still insist which sometimes was the start of a fight. Sorry to say but I have so much believe on myself which makes me feel like I should be the boss….something that I should never be because in marriage decision makings is a shared responsibility especially for the major decisions that require discussion and agreement like where you both wanted to live, how many children to have, how to spend the money, the time to spend together, household chores, future plans etc. etc.

I am such a stubborn wife and it’s always been the problem between us. I don’t know.. it’s really hard for to be submissive and agree on his decision right away without further discussions. But sometimes I decide on something without asking his side that causes an argument.

That was I before….but now somehow I have learned that all decisions would come from the two of us.

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8 comments:

Vhen said...

glad to hear your learning, at least there's a change.. I am stubborn too in some ways but then it shouldn't be that way.....

Rossel said...

it's good sis that you've learned to adjust. couple should always work as a team.
my entry is here, sis. happy mid-week!

chubskulit said...

Napapangiti naman ako dito Sheng, bat naman pangit tawag mo kay hubs mo lol. Eventually, you'll learn the balancing act of decision making in marriage hehehe..

Mommy Liz said...

Way to go Sheng!!! I am so proud of you. I know that when you get used to being independent, it would really be hard to live with someone and ask permission to every thing that you need to do. But, like what you said, you're working on it and you learned to sometimes, not go with what you want, but talk it over.. Good job..

anne said...

Yup at least you change for the better of your relationship, I was too sooo independent and that's what my husband like me about. Because he knows that my kids are in good hands especially we are still miles away until now. For now I decide on my own but although yes there are times I would tell him especially with spending money.

Jona said...

what's important is we're learning from the past :D

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zoan said...

it is so hard to be submissive, especially if you were born to lead :Dnhyahahahah

Soulful said...

it must have been really hard for you. but still, you were able to adjust to it, others simply DIDN'T, so a toast for you!

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