Couple's Corner: MISUNDERSTANDING

It’s Couples Corner again! Well, this topic is quite sensitive for me so I hope I can share you guys how hard it was to be in a situation you never dreamed or thought about.

“Sometimes in marriages fight occurs and one or both people get hurt on what is said”……..wish we are exempted on these…..but we’re not. I thought that being far away from each other would mean….no arguments…no misunderstanding……but the more we had.

The fact that I was brought up in a convent –like girl school and had him as the only guy I dated and promised to love till death we part…..i thought he trusted me so much. Though I understand how jealous and mad he was when he has known that I was talking to some stalker/friend during my first year in Dubai….. which I think is not bad unless I am flirting with them coz I believe that when you’re new in a corporate world like Dubai it is common not to trust anyone but at least know them, their culture and their beliefs so you would know how to deal with them. That was the reason of our first misunderstanding which I had to go through a lot of explanation. When we started dating we promised to be honest to each other and that’s why all the things that I was doing here before I made it sure to tell him. But you know when a member of your family started telling something against your better half which her sister did….of course even if he loves me so much…. “Blood is always ticker than water”. He had believed his sister than me. He thought that really I am having an affair with someone and I am dating many guys. That was the very moment I had to blame him having a coquette sisters. He became paranoid from his own experience.

Then he came to Dubai, I thought it was the end of his never ending doubts and negative thoughts on me…but the worst he became. We live each day with his nonsense suspicion. He always have so many questions like “Why are you late? Did you meet someone? What did you both do? Why do you have to dress well? What took you so long to answer your mobile? Etc etc etc. Those words are hurting me so much. Often, I would ask him “Why everyday of my life I have to hear that from you? You didn’t took me on the road and my parents didn’t send me to school to be just like what you say” I never cheated on him ever. I don’t see any point to it. There is no plausible reason for why he thinks I cheated. I had friends and even his sister knows it, she met some of them. They’re very rare friends whom I found in Dubai not taking advantage on me and respect my status as married.

I came to the point of leaving him many times….i have even packed my things….the first time it happened I left our flat finding some place to go…while walking I was crying out loud and asking myself why is he the very first person to hurt me that way. I hate him so much that night and when I came back he was there….he was working on a night duty so I was expecting he wouldn’t be there when I get my things… But there he was….asking for forgiveness…..that he was so sorry and he was just joking.

To be continued on the next Couple’s Corner…..Kiss and Make Up. For more Couple’s Corner stories just click the badge above.