Couple’s Corner # 4: THE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

Another story to share here at Couple’s Corner!

When you are further away from each other the passions soars when you meet! As long as you both don't cheat or anything. Long distance relationships can and do work! They work for those that are trustworthy, trusting, decent and remotely patient for something good.

After declaring our love on that sunny afternoon of New Year 2002 at Maribina Falls we have had our lives as if nothing had really changed. I live each day as an ordinary college girl in town and he works as an ordinary laborer in the city. It should have been tough nurturing our love considering the distance that we have…but no…it wasn’t…for the first year. We met seasonal and we have it like we we’re friends or he was still courting me. I remember there was this time that he stayed the whole night in our house talking to me…spending all the remaining hours before he left again to Bulacan. At the middle of the night I know he was already sleepy but when I asked him if he wanted to go home…he said no…and when it was about 4 in the morning I saw him close his eyes and asked him if he wants to go home already….but still he said no. Instead he asked a favor if he can lie he’s head on my lap so he can take a short sleep… (By the way it our usual setting that when we talked we should be on a opposite/adjacent seat facing each other….seems like we’re just really friends and we’re not on). Hesitant, I asked him to come near to me so he can rest for a while. (I have always been very careful in all the things I do or say…I don’t want to make an impression that because I grew up in the city I’m a liberated girl…….coz she likes a maria clara). The moment he close his eyes I wanted to hug and even kiss him on his forehead….and I think I have the right already…..and surely it’s not for the reason that I’m taking the first move but because we’re on…and it’s normal to cuddle…to kiss…to show some sweetness…. How I wish to hug him so tight that night since he’s leaving by tomorrow and we’ll see each other again after 4 months or more. But no! I did not! I’m afraid he’ll have a wrong impression on me…so then again we had our life further away from each other…

On our first anniversary, January 1, 2003, it was the start of a colorful relationship. It was not a romantic celebration as you might expect it….but it was a real memorable one for both of us. We met that day to attend the evening mass at the cathedral and right after…we stayed to our favorite hang out.

He usually parked his tricycle near that tree on the left (as usual)…and we’ll wait for the dawn before going home. But that night was unusual…before we used to stay their talking and watching the fisherman’s who comes and go while seated close to each other (immovable) at the passenger’s seat. But that night he pulled me close to him and let my head lie on his shoulder and because the weather during that season was a bit cold… he cuddled me (for the first time…which made my heart beats faster) and started touching my chin for quite sometimes and embraced me tightly maybe because it was really cold that time….but never did I expect that he will kiss me that night (that was my first ever kiss from the very first guy I love). My bodies numbed with cold or because of that kiss that lasted for a minute and more….physically shocked I didn’t know how to respond and the moments we get back to our consciousness….we’re both running out of breath.

I went home upset....as I was expecting him to ask permission before kissing me! Again, that’s included on my list of dreams….that when I had my first kiss….that lucky guy should ask permission as a sign of respect and gentleness…...do I sounds awkward? ….coz that’s what he said on me….that it was normal and needless to ask permission….any of you who expected the same?

Anyway, that kiss was the beginning of a more healthy and happy relationship. We became more concern to each other, more caring and more passionate. And at the middle of our second year, we begin to talk about marriage which of course is still out of my mind since I was just on my third year in college. Though on the other hand is a good idea coz definitely I’ll be marrying the only men in my life as part of my oath. Then October that same year I decided to visit him during the sembreak and we planned to have our secret marriage which did not happen.

So actually there was no marriage proposal, only a question that “What if we get married now? From then on every time we met we talked about it….on how we gonna do it without the knowledge of our family……which remained as plan until i graduated from college.

Till next couple’s corner…